The U.S.
President visited Kenya last week with a message of homosexual rights as part
of his agenda. They warned him before
his arrival not to bring up the subject,, but he did not respect their wishes. Kenyans have it right to believe
homosexuality distracts from personal health and healthy social
relationships.
The recent
U.S. Supreme Court decision attempting to redefine marriage is folly gone over
the edge. I believe this kind of a
decision is more a rejection of God than it is about so-called same-sex
attracted couples. When a person loses
his attraction to his Creator, he inevitably becomes more attracted to lust
than to love. True love does not seek
self-fulfillment, but the fulfillment and best outcome for another. Since God IS love, and Love defines
marriage, there is no place for lust in marriage.
Attraction
is based more on desire than on love.
Therefore, attraction is very vulnerable to lust (illegitimate desire)
which is the opposite of love. Physical
attraction is not a bad thing, but when it is confused with love, it becomes
highly distractive to true love (both heterosexual and homosexual). God created mankind with desires. He also created man with the ability to
choose between God's way of fulfilling those desires and man's own ways of
fulfilling the desires. So-called
same-sex attraction is a choice--a choice to lust not to love. Opposite sex attraction consummated in sex outside
of marriage is a choice--a choice to lust not to love.
Not only
did God create marriage for the expression of true love, but the gift of
expressing true sexuality which results in pro-creating the race. Confusing gender roles distracts from God's
purpose for human sexuality. Two men
together or two women together cannot
create a baby. So, while lust detracts
and distracts from love, same-gender sexuality detracts and distracts from true
sexuality.
I
understand some reading this will consider some of my statements as insensitive
and perhaps unloving. My
intent is to be direct, but very sensitive and very loving. Sometimes the truth is hard to accept for
whatever reason. God's love transcends
man's willingness and ability to receive it.
But when man's perception of love becomes more like God's perception, a
change of heart can transform thinking and behaving patterns to become more
genuinely sensitive and loving. I am
writing this because I care for the many who get caught in the trap of thinking
same-sex attraction is merely a biological issue leaving them powerless to
choose otherwise. Frankly, that is a
lie!
As a
certified counselor, and as a person who can attest to the possibilities of
behavioral pattern changes, I can confidently assure you that change is
possible when you remain open minded, and especially with the help of God
directing the process. A very tiny
minority of same-sex attracted persons may have a medical problem at its
source, but for the vast majority, an underlying self-image problem is at the
root. Again, same-sex issues present a
distraction from reckoning with the root causes of a person's low
self-concept. If that idea is new to
you, you can read some of my other blog posts to see how inner person health
begins with inner self evaluation and change.
I would encourage you not to be
distracted from the real issue. Don't
be distracted from God's love.
Evangelist Billy Graham warns in his preaching and writings that our eternal soul is at stake. Heaven and hell are real places. Not only is thumbing your nose at God
unhealthy, but it is irreversibly deadly and eternally tormenting. God is our Refuge. There is safety in God's love.
Only foolishness would allow something like sexual lust to win your
heart over (away from God's love). The only safe sex is chaste sex. Whether homosexual OR heterosexual, sexual
relations outside the covenant of God-defined marriage are defiant actions
against His design for mankind. True
meaning and purpose in life is found by surrendering your heart to God's
love.
If you feel
like a mess-up, no problem. It's never
too late to turn around. Simply believe
in Jesus and trust His way, not your own.
Allow yourself to be vulnerable to the God who loves unconditionally and
without fail. This kind of love is
powerful enough to feel like heaven on earth, and worth far more than all the
distractions this world can offer.
by Ed Hersh, Blue Rock BnB Healing Ministry
